or why would they want to, be it alcohol, drugs, or gambling.
It was easy to do because the casino accepted bank cards for large withdrawals.
It didn’t take long for me to get into serious trouble.
These were the words she wrote before taking her a near-fatal close of tranquilizers. She applied to have her one year self-exclusion order lifted as she was convinced she had learned lots from her gambling habit under control.
There was enormous strain on her body as the result of the stress and insomnia. In the eight months from the lifting of her self-exclusion to her attempted suicide she had gambled away more than half a million dollars belonging to clients, friends and family.
She called a gambling helpline and made arrangements to see a therapist who specialized in addiction. After four days in a coma she woke up in the high-care unit of a local hospital. Debts however, mounted by the day and she missed the gambling terribly.
The light at the end of her tunnel came in the form of a friend who loved and supported her through all this time, through thick and thin, the one who always believed in her despite the worst odds and eventually helped her through her ordeal. She felt life was not worth living.
Hopefully I will be in a better place, free from the terrible addiction that has held me captive for five years.”
Six months later she suffered a devastating relapse. She lost weight from not eating properly and was permanently bad tempered.
One morning when she was yet again at the casino trying to recoup her losses her husband’s acquaintance saw her. She just couldn’t take it anymore. In the five years she had gambled not only did she lose half a million dollars but also her twenty three year marriage, her two businesses, three jobs, family and friends, and almost lost her kids.
Her marriage though had been unhappy for several years.
This story is may sound an extreme example and even she would never have thought it possible until it actually happened to her, and you may not think you can be a victim of such an addiction.
As a young person she never understood how anybody could become addicted to anything. She had no choice but to have a self-exclusion policy initiated at the casino to prevent any further gambling, basically she banned herself.
Her parents wanted nothing more to with her and even the children had been poisoned against their mother.
On the day the gambler almost ended her life she had yet another big loss. He gave them her Identity number and requested activity statements profits and losses and past transactions.
In months that followed she slowly started to get her life back on track and it was good to have a sense of normality again. Finally, she has found a good job and she is taking her life back day by day.
”By the time you read this letter I will be gone.
For the five long years after her first casino experience she lived a double life.
She later found out this kind of information was give n to him on numerous occasions thereafter, despite her request that nobody be given access to it.
The woman confidently renegotiated with suppliers to extend her credit terms, and in this way bought extra time.
The several personal loans and credit cards from various banks were all updated and credit was allowed.
In her eyes only weak people succumbed to such things.
None of her family knew about her problem. Her children nor her marriage, home or family mattered to her anymore.
She now has a life time self-exclusion order at every casino in the country and would be arrested if she if as much as tries to enter the premises of any of these gambling halls. As her losses grew her interest in everything around her vanished and nothing mattered more than her gambling. She came up with reasons for not having much cash, she told everybody business was slow and had a couple of bad deals.
Well, this time her losses were even greater and so the urge to recoup these losses was also greater. He off-course told her husband the next day without her husband saying a word to her he went to the casino. This person felt worthless, a burden to her children and a total misfit. The innocent person involved in such issues can be affected most horribly.
They were divorced two years later and for the first time she realized how much help she needed to get her life back on track.
A young woman who considered herself as a well-balanced being and a model citizen. Her suicide attempt had failed and her worst fear was about to become a reality.
Though she kept on seeing he therapist her urge to back to the casino was overwhelming.
Excessive and compulsive gambling is one of the most destructive and expensive forms of addiction there is on the planet.
You become addicted when you fail to stop and even then you don’t see the problem until you have lost everything. Often her children were left with a neighbor. Until one fateful day when a ”harmless” visit to a newly built casino changed her life forever.
Where else could one make a profit in a couple of hours? She was hooked.
At that stage she was a successful business woman.
Every time she withdrew cash it was nothing to her, she did not feel a thing about how she spent it or abused money.
She owned two small businesses and had shares in two more.
Little time was spent at home; the gambling took her away from her friends and family. She simply couldn’t carry on so she decided to end her life but it didn’t work but as she planned.
At that point of her life she was in good terms with the bank manager so she simply had her overdraft limit increased and applied for and all was granted easily.
After the fatal suicide attempt she was transferred to a rehabilitation facility where she spent two months in intensive therapy.It was tough for her going through the procedure.
Financially things were going pretty plain.
She owed lots of money and the worst day of her life came when her children’s school principal telephoned to ask her to remove the twins from his school because their school fees hadn’t been paid for four months.
She also worked part-time to finance the expensive lifestyle to which her family had become accustomed; including private schooling for her twin boys aged eight.. She began her healing process.
She believed this time round she would do thing differently and would not become greedy for money.
She took on extra business clients many of them were personal friends and began borrowing money in an attempt to recoup her losses.
Desperate not to have her family find out about her problem.
Her car was almost repossessed, her credit cards and cheque books had to be returned to the bank and her overdraft facilities were suspended.
Thousands of dollars at a time was withdrawn and gambling the money all the way through the morning.
Gambling may be a harmless pass time to some people but in excess it destroys lives and homes.
In this story the woman gambled her whole away!
Mentally she never thought of anyone but herself.
One can be quick to judge addicts, whether their fix is drugs, alcohol, or gambling, but addiction can affect anybody and the saddest part is you don’t even realize you are addicted until it is too late.
Before she was discharged from the rehabilitation center her ex husband told her entire family about the gambling problem and it caused many issues between her sister and herself, and this kind of rift will never be bridged.
A woman who has so far managed to repair her relationship with her children and her self-esteem is gradually improving. She will forever be grateful to this person.
She was alone with two young children to support